Friday, April 29, 2011

"List That Every Military Man Needs to Read"

I've read this list before...but a lot more of them hit home this time :)
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1.) If she wasn't emotional before, that is all about to change.

2.) Get her a pair of dog tags, ASAP, This is crucial, she will never take them off.

3.) Most of the time, you losing reception during training is your fault. (Though, she will eventually understand)

4.) Most of the time, everything is your fault.

5.) She WILL start talking like your guys and you talk, including using your last names.

6.) Her patriotism could out-do most of your men... she will be proud... VERY proud.

7.) Be Ready: your car will end up with a yellow ribbon magnet or an "I LOVE MY _____" sticker eventually.
(if you have seperate cars, hers will DEFINITLY have these)

8.) She will most likely need a pair of dog tags to hang from the car's rear view mirror. (see 3)

9.) Every week she'll have "another song" that makes her think of you when you're away.
(And she'll cry to it, even when you're in the same room)

10.) If youre married, she may know the base better than you do... Don't take it personal.

11.) You will catch her comparing your relationship with "other couples" in the military constantly.

12.) She'll make 5 million friends online, and talk to you about them all the time because her "old friends just don't understand" like they do.

13.) Don't be shocked when she just drops civilian chicks out of her life like flies.
(she mostly does this when they complain to her)

14.) DO NOT if you love her, say anything about you not wanting to make her wait for you...
(TRUST me men, YOU ARE WORTH every breath to these women, or they wouldn't be here)

15.) Most women actually do LOVE it when you are sweaty and dirty, even the girlie girls. it's sexy as hell.

16.) Only bring up the field once, say it clear, and don't bring it up again. We will remember the time, the dates, like stone inside our mind.
Don't remind us.

17.) You ARE our hero. That isn't us being cute, it's us swelling with pride, feeling like a princess everytime we glance over and you're standing there.

18.) Don't worry about waking her up when you get a chance to call, trust me, she's NOT sleeping.
If she is, she's been waiting for you to call all night, and fell asleep next to the phone.

19.) Leave at least 3 of your shirts for her... she'll wear them all the time and if she doesnt wear them out she WILL wear them to sleep.

20.) No matter what she was like before, she is tough & harder than a rock now. She can handle anything, she will get through it, tears or no tears.

21.) Dont be discouraged or taken back from her strength. It comes with the territory. When in your arms, she's still your queen, soft and sweet.

22.) Your kids might see mommy as the one in charge for a while, it's okay, they WILL respect you, just give it time.

23.) EVERYTHING in her life will be complicated, so she might not always get the simple things you say to her.

24.) Tag Chasers are her WORST enemy, she CAN and WILL spot these girls... random profain comments may come out of your little queens' mouth...
its okay, shes protecting her best asset...you.

25.) She will spend hours to look good on cam & pics for you, this is just a pasttime until you get home, be prepared for messy ponytails and comfy pants when you finally do get home.

26.) Her favorite sentences from you start with "when i get home" or "when i get out".

Lastly guys,

27.) No matter how much she's changed, never forget that you mean the world to her, she loves you more than anything, and you will ALWAYS be her hero..whether you think you are one or not.


Monday, April 18, 2011

Our Song

How in the World
by Family Force Five

Stepping out on my own
The world was too big to face alone
The mission was clear
To find something sincere, a love unknown

I searched through all the universe
My heart crash-landed on the earth
I gave up on my love pursuit
Until I discovered you

How in the world did I find someone like you
Why in the world after all that we've been through
If you weren't here with me right now, then I don't know what I'd do
In all of the world I found my heart in you

Getting ready for take-off
We're gonna break-off, get out of here
We'll be walking on air
We're gonna tear through the atmosphere

Faster than the speed of sound
Gravity can't hold us down
When we touch we elevate
Let's just float away

This is the end of the life we once knew
How in the world did I live without you
This is the birth of a love so true
How in the world did I live without you

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Other Half

It has been three months since Peter graduated BMT. It seems crazy that it has been that long. When I read stories about how couples who dealt with BMT they always talk about how much stronger their relationship was after being apart for two months. One of the things that I noticed about him being gone for BMT was not that we became "stronger" per say as a couple, but that we became much stronger as individuals. I'm not saying that we didn't gain strength as a couple being apart for two months. But we were already long distance, so the general struggles of being apart for months at a time were familiar to us. What I do see is that we have become stronger individuals. I gained a confidence while he was gone, that I had not had before. Confidence that I can do what I have to do when he is not here. He is my "other half", but I have the ability to function and go about my daily life without him by my physical side. One of the things I love about us is that we function very well as individuals, but then we get together and are able to balance out each other in ways we could not do one our own.
I am of course not saying that being apart doesn't SUCK. Because it does. There are countless nights where I am watching tv, or working on homework, or hanging out with people and wish that he was by my side. But being together in the same state right now is not what is best for both of us. So I will continue to focus on finishing school and preparing to become his wife in a few short months. Because that is what I have been called to do. And I will fulfill my duties as an individual to be best of my ability so that the end goal of us being together can be fulfilled.
And when it gets harder being apart and there are nights that I want to cry because I miss him I will hold on tight to "monkey". Monkey smells good (like him) and is a great stand-in for the next few months... Monkey always makes me feel better.

My "monkey" that he gave me. The bear I gave him.

Sunday, April 3, 2011

Belonging

I had the opportunity to spend part of my spring break with Peter. He of course had no break, but I spent time with him on the weekend and when he got out of class. It was the first time since his BMT graduation that I had been on an AFB. I got there Friday evening and waited for him at the visitor's center. He had to shower and make himself smell pretty (:-P) so it took him a while to walk to the visitor's center to meet me. While I waited I was able to see several other families waiting greet their airmen. I felt so blessed being there knowing that I was waiting on my own airman. Especially since mine is the hottest :). When I saw him walking towards me I knew it was him before I could really see his face. How he walked and how he moved was sooooo Peter. There's nothing like the first hug after being apart for several weeks. Inhaling the scent that is associated only with him. Knowing that once again I'm safe in his arms...

The next evening he took me to the Chapel run community center, where, as a white rope, he spends a good chunk of his "free time". I had heard much about this place and was excited about finally seeing what I had heard so much about. It was a Saturday night so the place was 'hoppin". Young people were participating in very college like activities. There were ping-pong tables, music playing, TVs to play video games on, movies to watch, and areas just to hang out in. The big difference being that the majority of the people were in ABUs. Even though I was with Peter I felt really out of place. I felt like everybody knew that I didn't belong there. I stuck extremely close to Peter that evening.

Because I had a visitor pass I was able to wait on base for him on the afternoons he had class. I waited at the same community center that he had taken me during the weekend. There was no one there while I waited. So I staked out a table and did homework until he got there. The more I sat there the more comfortable I was being there. I finally got to the point that I felt as if I belonged. I belonged there because I was with Peter. 

Something I noticed about being on base late at night was how safe I felt. I was with Peter of course, but it was more than that. I felt safer there then I feel at my own school.

This trip was the first time that I got to see him in his ABUs. He looked hot :) He looked great. Because it was new to me, I followed him around taking pictures of him from every angle. He told me I looked like a tourist with my camera. I couldn't help it. I was just so excited about how awesome he looked and that MY MAN is a man in uniform.



Him NOT blinking...lol



Wondering where my hand was...


Like I said...every angle ;-)