Babies...or lack thereof...

Anyone who reads my blog who likes to pretend that sex does not exist should not read this post :)

I would like to state for all the doubters and to those who made bets(and I know who you are)...that we have been married almost 8 months and are NOT pregnant.

Proof :)

 

 

 

 

 

This has been an interesting topic for us. When we got married we did lots of research in to all types of birth control. We're not "birth control is murder/abortion" kind of people. But we do have concerns of the effects of bc on the woman's body. There are three types of birth control: hormonal, IUD, and barrier. All of which have advantages and disadvantages. And can be researched in great detail online.

Pills are in the hormonal category and  for most women the pill is their choice. We have chosen not to use the pill because of the hormonal effects. My body is pretty regular. I usually have a very predictable period. I see no reason to screw that up with unnecessary hormones. The pill is also known to be responsible for decrease of libido. And many woman who have gotten pregnant right after getting off of the pill have had miscarriages. The women in my family have a history of miscarriages for reasons that have not been clear. I have no desire to introduce something to my body that may cause complications in the future. Even though our preference is to wait a couple years to have children I intend to do everything I can to prepare my body for that time starting now. I want to give my children the best fighting chance to have a healthy start to life.

Our birth control of choice has been condoms...for us it has been the most effective method with the least amount of side effects. We are aware of the flaws in condoms. But feel that we are not to sacrifice health because of our lack of self-control. We will do our part to prevent pregnancy early in our marriage. But we also trust that it is going to be God's timing and not ours when the time is right to expand our family.

Young and Stupid...

This weekend we had the opportunity to go to a marriage retreat sponsored by our chapel. We got to spend the weekend downtown in a big city in the most amazing hotel we've ever been in. It was nice spending time together not having to worry about work stuff. Lots of quality couple time :) and we found a new old fashioned soda shop...which is very exciting for us. We have missed Pops in Oklahoma. We were able to stock up on some interesting soda flavors that we've never heard of/have.
Spending time with other couples was great and listening to the chaplain made for a great weekend. We discovered some things this weekend. Or rather some things were confirmed for us. We are not a "normal" couple. Stuff that drives most couples crazy about each other don't bother us. Because we have been able to workout the "normal" stuff we are strange. Now of course when we mention that fact we are just told that we're young...give it a few years...and my personal favorite "give it five years and you'll hate each other". We are in a society where even before we are married we are taught to hate our partner for the things they do to annoy us. Even if that thing may not actually annoy us that much. There were times this weekend after listening to the other women *!tch about their husbands I started wondering if there was something wrong with me because I actually am not driven crazy by the things most woman are driven crazy by. But then I had to mentally slap myself and realize how incredibly stupid that sounded. But I do get tired of being looked at like a freak because I am trying to find the best in my husband and not the things that drive me crazy. And the things he does that do annoy me I am learning how to deal with those so that I'm not annoyed by them.
I feel that when people like to use phrases like "give it five years" they are just waiting for us to fail. For us to get to a certain point where we "hate" each other for them to say "told you so". I do not understand that mentality of just wait long enough and they'll screw up.

Rant over...for now

btw... I'm not saying that he doesn't annoy me...I'm just annoyed by things like him picking out my clothes...and interrupting my projects with his ideas that will "improve" my project. But we are learning to work through those things so that in five years we WILL NOT hate each other.